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Becoming a man : the story of a transition

by P. Carl, 1966-

Format: Print Book 2020
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"A memoir that is jolting, honest, passionate, and beautifully written" (Claudia Rankine), Becoming a Man explores one man's gender transition amid a pivotal political moment in America.

Becoming a Man is the striking memoir of P. Carl's journey to become the man he always knew himself to be. For fifty years, he lived as a girl and a queer woman, building a career, a life, and a loving marriage, yet still waiting to realize himself in full. As Carl embarks on his gender transition, he takes us inside the complex shifts and questions that arise throughout--the alternating moments of arrival and estrangement. He writes intimately about how transitioning reconfigures both his own inner experience and his closest bonds--his twenty-year relationship with his wife, Lynette; his already tumultuous relationships with his parents; and seemingly solid friendships that are subtly altered, often painfully and wordlessly.

Carl blends the remarkable story of his own personal journey with incisive cultural commentary, writing brilliantly about gender, power, and inequality in America. His transition occurs amid the rise of the Trump administration and the #MeToo movement--a transition point in America's own story, when transphobia and toxic masculinity are under fire even as they thrive in the highest halls of power. Carl's quest to become himself and to reckon with his masculinity mirrors, in many ways, the challenge before the country as a whole, to imagine a society where every member can have a vibrant, livable life. Here, through this brave and deeply personal work, Carl brings an unparalleled new voice to this conversation.
Published Reviews
Booklist Review: "Usually the term double consciousness, made famous by the civil rights activist W. E. B. Du Bois, refers to the experience of African Americans. But in his wondrous memoir, theater artist Carl uses it to refer to what it feels like to be a trans person who has lived in another person's body. He had been, to all appearances, a white, Midwestern woman for 50 years until, on March 16, 2017, everything changed. He became a man; that is, he finally became himself. This is the story of how that transformation came to be and his way of exploring what it means to undergo such change. Does a new body alter one's personality, one's inner life? Carl also addresses issues of white male privilege, which he unapologetically embraces after being invisible most of his life. Yet he is acutely aware of the toxic masculinity that shapes mainstream culture, from Brett Kavanaugh to the current occupant of the White House, a poison he hopes to transcend. Carl has written a poignant and candid self-appraisal of life as a work in progress. --June Sawyers Copyright 2020 Booklist"
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Publisher's Weekly Review: "In this deeply personal and moving debut memoir, theater writer Carl shares the story of his difficult yet triumphant gender transition. After living as a queer woman for most of his life, Carl transitioned at age 51. His longtime wife, Lynette, had a hard adjustment, one that Carl struggled to understand--"I never equated my transition, becoming me, with leaving you," Carl writes to Lynette. "I felt I was appearing in the relationship for the first time." Carl's raw, thoughtful musings on the life he now lives--and how powerless he was as a woman (as a graduate student, Carl was nearly raped by another student), yet how privileged he suddenly is as a white man--are incisive and intimate, ranging from empathy for Christine Blasey Ford, accuser of Supreme Court Justice Brett Kavanaugh, to a somewhat shameful satisfaction at talking "shit with another guy right before I walk in the house and have to deal with whatever it is we're arguing about." Carl's honest, timely musings illustrate the deep ruminations that can arise about one's assigned gender at birth and the gender one becomes. Carl's thoughts about sexuality and his compassionate feelings for sexual assault survivors will captivate readers from the first page to the last. (Jan.)"
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Additional Information
Subjects Female-to-male transsexuals -- United States -- Biography.
Transgender people -- United States -- Biography.
Gender identity -- United States -- Psychological aspects.
Publisher New York :2020
Edition First Simon & Schuster hardcover edition.
Language English
Description 227 pages ; 22 cm
ISBN 9781982105099
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