And then they stopped talking to me : making sense of middle school

by Warner, Judith, 1965-

Format: Print Book 2020
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Summary
The French have a name for the uniquely hellish years between elementary school and high school- l' ge ingrat, or "the ugly age." Characterized by a perfect storm of developmental changes-physical, psychological, and social-the middle school years are a time of great distress for children and parents alike, marked by hurt, isolation, exclusion, competition, anxiety, and often outright cruelty. Some of this is inevitable; there are intrinsic challenges to early adolescence. But these years are harder than they need to be, and Judith Warner believes that adults are complicit.

With deep insight and compassion, Warner walks us through a new understanding of the role that middle school plays in all our lives. She argues that today's helicopter parents are overly concerned with status and achievement-in some ways a residual effect of their own middle school experiences-and that this worsens the self-consciousness, self-absorption, and social "sorting" so typical of early adolescence.

Tracing a century of research on middle childhood and bringing together the voices of social scientists, psychologists, educators, and parents, Warner's book shows how adults can be moral role models for children, making them more empathetic, caring, and resilient. She encourages us to start treating middle schoolers as the complex people they are, holding them to high standards of kindness, and helping them see one another as more than "jocks and mean girls, nerds and sluts."

Part cultural critique and part call to action, this essential book unpacks one of life's most formative periods and shows how we can help our children not only survive it but thrive.
Published Reviews
Booklist Review: "Considering the painful memories and lingering PTSD cited by some of the 125 individuals interviewed for this book, it's a wonder anyone has ever survived middle school. How have we come to this? Warner (Perfect Madness, 2005) offers several explanations. Precocious physical and social maturation, adolescents staying in school longer (instead of going to work or away to boarding school), and psychological pressure to be popular have all taken their toll. Warner's subjects' memories of bad behavior include bullying, shunning, shaming, and physical assault by former best friends, mean girls, cool kids, and sometimes even parent-to-parent. As Warner digs deeper, it becomes apparent that these hurtful episodes and feelings of exclusion are probably universal, and represent understandable reactions to seesawing emotions and hormonal swings. Her advice? Parents must keep channels of communication open, and model socially acceptable behavior, even in the face of wildly unpredictable and immature actions (whether from their own kids or other adults). This readable, relatable, and well-documented account makes sense, and should help families survive the middle school years."
From Booklist, Copyright (c) American Library Association. Used with permission.
Additional Information
Subjects Parent and teenager.
Middle school students.
Home and school.
Adolescence.
Publisher New York :2020
Edition First edition.
Language English
Description xxiv, 287 pages ; 25 cm
Bibliography Notes Includes bibliographical references (pages 201-274) and index.
ISBN 9781101905883
1101905883
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