Sissy : a coming-of-gender story

by Tobia, Jacob, 1991-

Format: Print Book 2019
Availability: Available at 8 Libraries 8 of 10 copies
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Braddock Carnegie Library Non Fiction 92 TOB
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CLP - Allegheny Regional Non-Fiction Collection CT275.T69 A3 2019
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From the moment a doctor in Raleigh, North Carolina, put "male" on Jacob Tobia's birth certificate, everything went wrong. Alongside "male" came many other, far less neutral words- words that carried expectations about who Jacob was and who Jacob should be, words like "masculine" and "aggressive" and "cargo shorts" and "SPORTS!"

Naturally sensitive, playful, creative, and glitter-obsessed, as a child Jacob was given the label "sissy." In the two decades that followed, "sissy" joined forces with "gay," "trans," "nonbinary," and "too-queer-to-function" to become a source of pride and, today, a rallying cry for a much-needed gender revolution. Through revisiting their childhood and calling out the stereotypes that each of us have faced, Jacob invites us to rethink what we know about gender and offers a bold blueprint for a healed world--one free from gender-based trauma and bursting with trans-inclusive feminism.

From Jacob's Methodist childhood and the hallowed halls of Duke University to the portrait-laden parlors of the White House, Sissy takes you on a gender odyssey you won't soon forget. Writing with the fierce honesty, wildly irreverent humor, and wrenching vulnerability that have made them a media sensation, Jacob shatters the long-held notion that people are easily sortable into "men" and "women." Sissy guarantees that you'll never think about gender--both other people's people's and your own --the same way again.
Published Reviews
Booklist Review: "Tobia, who uses ""they"" and ""their"" as pronouns, is a gifted storyteller. Their fascinating story begins with life as a feminine little boy, whose best friends were girls, to graduation summa cum laude from Duke as a proud trans person. Along the way, it's a classic coming-of-age story that doubles as a quest to discover one's gender identity. Sissy, they write, was the first gender identity I ever had, the first word the world ever gave me. Gay (a term Tobia detests) arrives later as they come out of the closet and begin to reject a binary identity. Other words follow as they mature: transgender, genderqueer, nonbinary, gender nonconforming, etc. Words are obviously important in considering gender, but so is incident. A transformative moment comes when, as a teenager, Tobia buys a pair of women's shoes with high heels, no less and ultimately wears them to church. Surprisingly for a gay person they write, Church was my saving grace. Nevertheless, their relationship with their church becomes uneasy at one significant point before they are able to return to its grace. The most interesting part of the story, however, concerns Tobia's years at Duke, where, they note, they were a Big Queen on Campus. These were also the years when they ultimately found their gender as a trans person. Always thoughtful, Tobia writes extremely well, with insight, lucidity, occasional anger, and, when things get too serious, wit. The result is, hands down, one of the best trans narratives available; it deserves a place in every library.--Michael Cart Copyright 2019 Booklist"
From Booklist, Copyright (c) American Library Association. Used with permission.
Publisher's Weekly Review: "TV producer and performer Tobia, who uses the pronouns "they/them," recounts their journey from shy, closeted gender-nonconforming kid to out-and-proud young genderqueer LGBTQ activist in this hilarious and candid memoir. Tobia thoughtfully and accessibly captures the anguish of being placed inside boxes that don't fit-how "gender hurts us all" by creating prisons of identity, with both kids and adults policing and bullying those who fail to conform. Tobia was raised Methodist and writes perceptively on the evolution of their relationship with the church, from feeling "unequivocally and unconditionally loved" as a child (a story about coming out to a youth pastor is particularly touching) to finding it less than inclusive as a teen. Their identity was evolving during that time, too; Tobia humorously recalls the inner turmoil and sheer joy of acquiring their first pair of high heels and "strutting around in a McDonald's parking lot." In college, Tobia glimpsed gender freedom on a camping trip, in queer groups, and among friends, while facing down a rigidly binary, stereotype-driven gender culture on campus. While older readers may feel the book includes too much of the minutiae of college life, Tobia's outspoken refusal to be bound by social constrictions is admirable, and their funny, sometimes raunchy voice is a charming bonus. Agent: Katherine Latshaw, Folio Literary Management. (Mar.) © Copyright PWxyz, LLC. All rights reserved."
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Additional Information
Subjects Tobia, Jacob, -- 1991-
Gender-nonconforming people -- United States -- Biography.
Publisher New York :2019
Language English
Description x, 319 pages ; 24 cm
ISBN 9780735218826
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