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The big lie : motherhood, feminism, and the reality of the biological clock

by Selvaratnam, Tanya,

Format: Print Book 2014
Availability: Available at 1 Library 1 of 1 copy
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CLP - Main Library Second Floor - Non-fiction RG648.S438 2014
Location  CLP - Main Library
 
Collection  Second Floor - Non-fiction
 
Call Number  RG648.S438 2014
 
 
Summary
" A candid assessment of the pros and cons of delayed motherhood. Biology does not bend to feminist ideals and science does not work miracles. That is the message of this eye-opening discussion of the consequences of delayed motherhood. Part personal account, part manifesto, Selvaratnam recounts her emotional journey through multiple miscarriages after the age of 37. Her doctor told her she still ""had time,"" but Selvaratnam found little reliable and often conflicting information about a mature woman's biological ability (or inability) to conceive. Beyond her personal story, the author speaks to women in similar situations around the country, as well as fertility doctors, adoption counselors, reproductive health professionals, celebrities, feminists, journalists, and sociologists. Through in-depth reporting and her own experience, Selvaratnam urges more widespread education and open discussion about delayed motherhood in the hope that long-lasting solutions can take effect. The result is a book full of valuable information that will enable women to make smarter choices about their reproductive futures and to strike a more realistic balance between science, soc
Published Reviews
Booklist Review: "At the outset, Selvaratnam discloses that she's had an abortion, a miscarriage, and unsuccessful fertility treatment. But somehow even when faced with a cancer diagnosis, pregnancies that ended in the first trimester, and an unwanted separation from her husband she remains upbeat. She's intelligent (she's a Harvard grad), passionate (she's a feminist and activist), and artistic (she's a documentary and theater producer). And she wants to share her hard-won wisdom so that young women in the future don't make the same mistakes she did. Selvaratnam regrets mistreating her body (she smoked and copied the bulimic behavior she saw in older girls) and not thinking about fertility (she didn't give it much thought until she started trying to conceive at age 37). Her message: Don't fall victim to The Big Lie that women can delay motherhood until they find the perfect partner, feel emotionally and financially ready, and figure out their career. She also reminds us to honor and care for the people who are already here on this Earth, and to Advocate for a better future. --Springen, Karen Copyright 2010 Booklist"
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Publisher's Weekly Review: "Producer and activist Selvaratnam, a self-defined casualty of the second-wave feminist idea that biology should not define destiny, responds with a provocative mix of solid information and palpable anger. She critiques a medical profession that portrays childbirth after age 35 as reasonable and easy, a business culture that idolizes "leaning in," and media idolatry of pregnant older celebrities. Selvaratnam stays committed to third-wave feminism as she urges women to understand the limits of their fertility. Acknowledging the reasons why women delay childbearing, she asserts that women who know they want a child should not "make it dependent on being established in your career or finding the right partner," and supports single motherhood. Throughout, Selvaratnam shares her personal experience with fertility struggles, including multiple miscarriages after age 37. Although the book occasionally veers off-message as the author addresses the difficulties of her artistic career and a surprise cancer diagnosis, she wants to encourage other women to discuss the financial drain and disappointments associated with assistive reproduction. This wakeup call to feminists of childbearing age is controversial, but few would argue with Selvaratnam's suggestion that women get the facts before making family-planning decisions. Agent: Meg Thompson, Einstein Thompson Agency. (Jan.) (c) Copyright PWxyz, LLC. All rights reserved."
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Additional Information
Subjects Miscarriage -- Personal narratives.
Motherhood -- Age factors.
Generative organs, Female -- Aging.
Feminism.
Publisher Amherst, New York :2014
Language English
Description 368 pages ; 23 cm
Bibliography Notes Includes bibliographical references (pages 315-348) and index.
ISBN 9781616148454 (pbk.)
1616148454 (pbk.)
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