You say Tomato, I say shut up : a love story

by Gurwitch, Annabelle.

Format: Print Book 2010
Availability: Available at 3 Libraries 3 of 3 copies
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Carnegie Library of McKeesport - Duquesne Non fiction 306.81 G969
Location  Carnegie Library of McKeesport - Duquesne
Collection  Non fiction
Call Number  306.81 G969
Monroeville Public Library Non-fiction 306.810973 GURWITCH
Location  Monroeville Public Library
Collection  Non-fiction
Call Number  306.810973 GURWITCH
Sewickley Public Library Nonfiction 306.81 GUR 2010
Location  Sewickley Public Library
Collection  Nonfiction
Call Number  306.81 GUR 2010
In this hilarious and ultimately moving memoir, comedians and real-life married couple Annabelle Gurwitch and Jeff Kahn prove that in marriage, all you need is love--and a healthy dose of complaining, codependence, and pinot noir.
After thirteen years of being married, Annabelle and Jeff have found "We're just not that into us." Instead of giving up, they've held their relationship together by ignoring conventional wisdom and fostering a lack of intimacy, by using parenting as a competitive sport, and by dropping out of couples therapy. The he-said/she-said chronicle of their intense but loving marriage includes an unsentimental account of the medical odyssey that their family embarked upon after their infant son was diagnosed with VACTERL, a very rare series of birth defects. Annabelle and Jeff's unforgivingly raw, uproariously funny story is sure to strike both laughter and terror in the hearts of all couples (not to mention every single man or woman who is contemplating the connubial state).
Serving up equal parts sincerity and cynicism, You Say Tomato, I Say Shut Up is a laugh-out-loud must-read for everyone who has come to realize that being "in love" can only get you so far.
On Cohabitation
He says: "Within days of Annabelle's arrival, I became very aware that she demanded solitude and had the housekeeping habits of a feral animal."

She says: "The guy had some sort of nudity radar. When I would take my clothes off for even a second, Jeff would be in front of me cheering as if he'd scored box seats at Fenway Park."
On Sex
He says: "I want to have sex every day, but Annabelle only wants to do it once a week. So we compromise: we have sex once a week."

She says: "Jeff says talking about money before you have sex is a turnoff, but it's only a turnoff if you're talking about not having money. Talking about money before you have sex when you have money is actually a turn-on ."
On Pregnancy
He says: "For God's sake, all I wanted to do was have sex without a condom for a little whi≤ now we were moments from bringing a new life into the world!"

She says: "My ass was expanding so fast it was like a Starbucks franchise. On every corner of my ass there was a new branch of ass opening up."
Let us now praise lactose intolerance
A Saab story
A tale of two kitties
28 days later
Hungry like the wolf
The years of living sleeplessly
The eighteen-year plan
Back to the pussy
Slouching toward Cooperstown
They're not our father's fathers-in-law
I'm O.K., you're the problem
- Anything goes
Future shock spouse
The state of our union.

Published Reviews
Publisher's Weekly Review: "Married for 13 years, Gurwitch and Kahn look back with laughter at the highs, the lows, and their "different marital needs." Writer-actor Kahn (Curb Your Enthusiasm) won an Emmy for scripting The Ben Stiller Show; actress Gurwitch (Seinfeld) produced a documentary adapted from her 2006 book Fired! Tales of the Canned, Canceled, Downsized, & Dismissed. By teaming for this equally merry marriage memoir, the duo doubles the giggles and guffaws. Over many months, they have been doing readings and performances from this book in progress, when it had the working title, How Not to Have a Marriage Like Ours. The book includes alternating "He Says"/"She Says" sections. Opening with Jeff's pursuit of Annabelle, they write in a lighthearted fashion about dating, cats, living together, marriage, the honeymoon, and lots of sex: "In the beginning, there was sex and it was good. In the middle, it became something to schedule like a tennis lesson and flu shot." A genuine crisis interrupted their comedic conflicts when their son was born with birth defects, a situation that affected their marriage: "We became each other's psychological punching bags." In the concluding chapter, they speculate on the future direction of their marriage, possibly "like the bonds of emperor penguins and Gertrude Stein and Alice B. Toklas." Readers will hope they stay together to write more heartfelt, funny books like this one. (Feb. 14) (c) Copyright PWxyz, LLC. All rights reserved"
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Additional Information
Subjects Gurwitch, Annabelle -- Marriage.
Kahn, Jeff -- Marriage.
Marriage -- United States -- Case studies.
Man-woman relationships -- United States -- Case studies.
Married people -- United States -- Biography.
Jews -- United States -- Biography.
Parenting -- United States -- Case studies.
Publisher New York :Crown Publishers,2010
Edition 1st ed.
Contributors Kahn, Jeff.
Language English
Description 264 pages ; 24 cm
ISBN 9780307463777
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